Friday, February 22, 2013

1950's Housewife

I watched Mona Lisa Smile last night (its on netflix instant play right now), I saw it way back when it came out, but haven't seen it since. As I sat there watching it I couldn't help but cringe at the "1950's housewife" mentality. It was almost sickening to me. There are these extremely educated woman going to college, but for what? To go home and be little housewives, slave over the stove to have dinner ready by 5, clean the same thing over and over again. It completely boggles my mind.

I live in 2013 so that mentality shouldn't affect me right? But I was raised and am LDS, I feel that 1950's housewife mentality is still alive and taught in "our" culture. I sat in young women's for 6 years being "taught" or rather told what to dream about for my future. For example we made keepsake containers to open when we got engaged, it had what  we wanted our dress to look like, our colors, flowers, a letter to our future husband, what we wanted in a husband, along with baby names. We had mutual activities about cooking, cleaning, and organization. So I grew up learning that being a stay at home mom and housewife was a prestigious role. I was told that is what I would want to do when I grew up. I cant remember one lesson or activity about going to college, or making a keepsake box about what kind of career I wanted to have. I feel like I was taught that having a career wasn't all that great.

It got me thinking and realizing though, I know have a child (who i love and adore) and cant make going to to work seem financially logical (childcare is a joke how much people charge). So I am a "stay at home mom" and "housewife", please dont take this the wrong way if you are either of those, but I absolutely hate that title. Not only do I hate the title I hate the idea of it. I all of a sudden feel like certain things are expected from me because I am at home all day. My poor husband...I find myself not cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, or anything else in spite of those expectations. Yet I know he expects them out of me now. The worst part about that is I do enjoy attempting to cook, organizing, and having a clean house, I just do not want to admit to myself this is what its come to. "Berlin you are a little housewife" aka a slave to being at someones beck and call, not exactly what I expected from myself.

With all of my ranting and raving, I still have the upmost respect for women who choose to be stay at home moms. I think at this time in my life it wasn't my first choice and thats why I am slightly bitter about it. I am glad I get to spend my time with my lil' monkey, I just wish I had more human interaction, more real conversations, knew what was happening in the world haha! I am also still trying to figure out how to manage my time, get sleep, and be motivated to do all of those housewife/homemaker type things because I want to, not because its expected of me. I think bottom line I'm a stubborn ass and dont like being told what to do and am feeling forced into this role. 
For all those stay at home moms out there, how do you stay sane? How do you make time for yourself? What is your outlet?  

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

"Back to Basics" Blogging Basics

It's been well over a year since I've blogged and A LOT has happened since then, so I decided to start writing again. 
Great news I have officially left the dating game! I met Dave at The Westerner (fun fact: his name in my phone is Dave Westerner....I don't think I'll ever change that either) he was out for his birthday and I was out for a friends birthday. Of course we stopped him because he was so tall and we were basically amazed! Long story short, I was suppose to leave for Virginia on Monday to sell pest control with a friend, needless to say that didn't end up happening. We got married in September and I feel extremely lucky and blessed to find someone as great as he is. I feel like I just walked into it, which isn't something I ever found with any other guy. Lucky for all of you, you don't have to listen to me rant and rave about my dating life. So check one found the guy of my dreams and snatched him before anyone else could. 
As if I wasn't lucky enough, we moved into a brand new town home in August. I find myself sitting in my house at least once a week thinking its surreal that I live in this home. Gorgeous tile throughout (that my wonderful husband put in), granite countertops, and wonderful. I just always assumed I was going to live in a small one or two bedroom apartment for years. 
To add the cherry on top we just welcomed the cutest little monkey into the world about 3 weeks ago. Piper Elizabeth Bauer (We had the name picked out before we even knew she was a girl I can't believe how easy it was to agree on a name) born Jan 15th 2013 8lbs 12oz and an incredible 22 inches long. We've already decided she's going to HAVE to play volleyball and kick ass at it. Motherhood is something completely different. I think i've fell into it pretty easily, which is not what I expected at all. Figuring out how to get things done, yet sleep when baby is sleeping is a little tricky but in due time I'm sure I'll get the hang of it.
Since I'm slightly lame/lazy Im not going to post pictures today, however my friend Nicole came over the other day and took some adorable pictures of Piper so check out her blog and the cute pictures.  
Peace Out!!!!